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How to Feel Content With Your Life

When we feel bored and restless with life, we switch up our routine or try something new. However, sometimes we reach to the point where we’ve been feeling unfulfilled with our lives for weeks, months, and even years.

The feeling of discontentment lingers because we’re searching for happiness. Happiness is a strange concept, and it may be hard or impossible for many to find it because happiness is a state of being, not an object. If you are in a state of happiness, it is not in a continual state since life is always throwing challenges at us.

Instead of falling into the happiness trap, live with contentment.

The state of being content, or contentment, is about peaceful satisfaction. It is about appreciating where you are in life and what you have, rather than wishing things were different. However, it does not mean you should settle for a life that doesn’t bring you joy. You should continue to set goals, dream big for yourself, and do your best to achieve them. Just don’t rush to reach your goals, instead work towards them diligently.

The strange thing about contentment is that it’s possible to have outer struggle yet feel fulfilled inside at the same time. It’s because contentment works through the bad in your life while simultaneously celebrates the good. Being content is something you can continually work towards, whereas happiness may come and go.

Here are the ways to help you with your journey in cultivating more contentment in your life.

Live your values. You can easily be your authentic self if your actions and thoughts are in line with your values. Being your authentic self is going to give you a greater sense of contentment. Values provide us with motivation, energy, and they calm us down. They are essentially what we care about most in life. Values drive you toward your dream.

If you are continually thinking about the future or are dissatisfied with life, it is vital to make sure you honor your values in your daily life. If not, make a plan to honor your values every day.

Nourish your mind, body, and soul. Take care of yourself inside and out to feel more content with the way you are now. A lot of people stay focused on the future because they imagine themselves happier, slimmer, healthier, etc., but to make your imagination a reality is to take action right now.

Play up your strengths. Usually, we take a lot of time trying to change things in our lives that we don’t like. If changing our dislikes does not materialize, we tend to complain about them. Most of us have this mentality of being good at everything, but you need to know that everyone will have their weaknesses.

Rather than focusing on things that you’re not good, continue developing your current skills and strengths. Think about how you can use your strengths to the best of your ability to prevent you from dwelling on the things you don’t like about yourself. Emphasize the parts that you do want to have more time living a fulfilling life.

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Coping With Loneliness the Healthiest Ways

Do you feel lonely in a crowd? Being alone is okay with you? Maybe you are new to a city and having a hard time making friends. Or the people you love appear not in the same phase of your life. Or perhaps you’ve got all the friends you possibly want, but you seem not connected to them. You are likely suffering from loneliness.

Loneliness is considered as a complex mental and emotional phenomenon. It is something every human being has gone through or will go through. However, chronic loneliness needs attention as it can have serious health impacts. Loneliness can lead to depression and alcoholism, decreased immune system, strokes, and early death.

Here are some ways to recognize loneliness and deal with it in the healthiest ways.

 

  • Make a list of activities you can do by yourself

 

Create a list of simple activities that you enjoy or something that you are willing to try when you’re lonely. It could be playing on your phone, solving a puzzle, watching movies, crocheting, screenwriting, or quilting. The goal is to distract yourself from the acute loneliness in a healthy way. Better yet, go to a place you’ve always wanted to go and get to know yourself better.

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  • Remember that loneliness is a feeling, not fact

 

When you feel lonely, it is because something has triggered a memory of that feeling, not because you are isolated and alone. Our brain pays attention to pain and danger, including painful, scary feelings, and therefore loneliness gets our attention. When you are lonely, your mind tries to make sense of the feeling.

 

It makes you ask yourself the reason you are feeling that way. Is it because nobody loves you? Because you are a loser? Because people are all mean? Theories on the reasons you feel lonely can become confused with facts. Then it becomes a bigger issue, but it can be prevented. Just realize that you’re having this feeling of loneliness and accept it without overreacting.

 

  • Find others like you

 

Joining any class, whether it’s an exercise class, an art class, or a class at your local community college, exposes you to a group of people who share at least one of your interests. It can also give you a sense of belonging that comes with being part of a group. This can provide you with something to look forward to during the day, stimulate creativity, and help stave off loneliness.

 

  • Practice positive self-talk

 

When you are feeling lonely, you may start to think something like you hate yourself as no one wants to be with you. Negative self-talk only adds to your loneliness and takes a beating to your self-esteem. Instead, make an effort to replace negative thoughts with positive messages to bring about more pleasant and helpful emotions.

 

  • See a therapist

 

If your loneliness persists after trying the above suggestions, it may be a good idea to seek psychotherapy to help with your feeling of loneliness. Professional therapy can help you change your thoughts and actions. Psychotherapy can help you not only experience less loneliness but do more in your life to prevent loneliness.

 

Whatever loneliness you are feeling right now, know that you’re not truly alone, and there are a lot of things you can do to feel more connected.

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Skills to Learn In a Comprehensive Leadership Development Program

The majority of organizations have leadership development programs. However, according to Harvard Business Publishing research, only 7 percent of these organizations describe their programs as “best in class.” The statistic means that several current leadership development programs may ultimately be failing both the organizations and their leaders who participate in them. Designing an effective leadership development program begins with arming leaders with the specific tools, skills, and behaviors as they’ll need to confidently lead members and drive the performance of their organization or team. With that in mind, here are the crucial skills a comprehensive leadership development program should include.

  • Coaching. It is one of the best methods leaders should regularly attend to release the full potential of their direct reports. Leaders should have excellent coaching skills as coachable moments happen daily. They should seize these moments to influence employees’ engagements and productivity positively. Leaders must be able to effectively provide feedback, motivation, and guidance in real-time.

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  • Accountability. The most successful leaders know that their success is not only dependent on how they perform but on the team’s performance as a whole. Today’s leaders are not accessed as individual contributors, but as part of the organizations they’re held accountable. By training leaders on accountability, they’ll become capable of making everyone in the group, including themselves, to succeed and produce the needed results.

 

  • Change Management. An organization cannot be frozen in time as it’s not a static entity. Changes in the marketplace, company growth, employee turnover, and countless other factors contribute to ongoing changes. Whether the changes feel like a tidal or ripple wave to employees, leaders must be prepared to guide them through transitions. Shepherding employees with constant changes requires training leaders to manage change before it even transpires. Change management training is vital in any leadership development program to make sure that leaders can harness the power of vision, offer strong leadership during a particular season, and take advantage of the transitional times to improve performance.

 

  • Influence and Negotiation. Effective leaders inspire, persuade, and encourage others to make their vision a reality. They don’t command with authority but strongly influence and fairly negotiate. Leaders understand that it’s not about who has the most power but about who has the best influence on employees to attain results. They don’t demand employees to do something because of hierarchy or authority but will instead use this subtle quality to build relationships, find a win-win, and align priorities that ultimately lead to competed projects and delivered results.

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  • Communication. Communication Training is standard in every leadership development program. But questions are how effective and up-to-date is it? Communication skill is not something that leaders can learn through just reading, listening to a presentation, or watching a video about it. As a leader, you are communicating at all hours of the day through emails, videoconferencing, text messages, phone calls, large presentations, and one-on-one conversations. Communication skills maybe not a new skill to leadership development. Still, it is one that requires to be optimized to be entirely useful and relevant leaders of today and beyond.

 

A fresh approach to training and development can close the gap between the desire of first-class leadership and the reality of failed leadership programs. Consider the needs of leaders and company-specific challenges and ask for input from current successful leaders to design a leadership development program that’s successful in the eyes of everyone involved.

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Guidelines Toward Personal Growth and Self-Development

Self-improvement is an essential trait a person can possess. The urge to become better will be able to get you far and progress in our life.

We all know that we aren’t perfect, but there’s always room for improvement. We should always try to be the best version of ourselves.

Here are some guidelines to enter the path of personal growth and self-development.

  1. Know and embrace yourself

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Know who you are and who do you aspire to be. Always try to be yourself, focus on yourself and what you want. It is sometimes quite challenging to be just ourselves in a world that expects us to fit in and conform. However, it is better to avoid conforming to the standards, expectations, and ideals of other people because usually, they aren’t realistic, and aspiring to these can make us miserable. Don’t care what people think of us because we’ll be judged regardless. Embrace yourself as it is better to be hated for who you are than it’s to be loved for something you aren’t.

 

  1. Get out of your comfort zone

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Getting out of your comfort zone and putting yourself out there means that you’ll grow as a person. So, take risks and aim to do something different, such as learning a new hobby or skill.

 

  1. Take criticism well

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You cannot please all of the people all the time, and certain people are just haters who always find a way to put you down, judge you, and belittle you.

 

Unfortunately, these kinds of people are part of our lives. The best thing to do is to take criticism well. Treat their jealous and bitter comments as water off a duck’s back.

 

  1. Know how to assert yourself

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We often go through challenging situations in life. Knowing how to assert yourself is one of the most essential skills you’ll ever need. Stand for yourself and make your feelings known.

 

  1. Adopt good habits

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Are you often getting problems with your time on your tasks? Learn to complete tasks earlier. Are you having tough times staying organized? Write down or make a note of your to-do lists and deadlines. Are you struggling to keep yourself motivated? Remember why you started on your goals and remember to focus on them. Adopting good habits will help you go even further.

 

  1. Make a plan and create a list of goals
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Know your ambitions and write them down so that you have a clear view of your goals.

 

  1. Be kind and generous

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Everyone is fighting a battle, and the world runs better on kindness and generosity. Help those who are in need, and if you can’t in any capacity, then at least don’t hurt them. There’s nothing to be gained from being spiteful, horrible, nasty, and bitter to others. Genuine acts of kindness will take you further.

 

  1. Remember the simple yet the most essential things in life

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It’s easy to overlook the little things in the daily grind of life, but you need to remember they are the essential aspects of life. Go out on a walk in the park to get some fresh air, spend time with a best friend, pick up the phone to call a sibling, smell the beautiful flowers, or smile and say hi to a neighbor when you walk past them in the street.

 

  1. Keep learning new skills

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Learning does not end when you finish school. It is a lifelong journey. Take up a new hobby, whether it’s learning to play a musical instrument, coding, crafting, taking up a new sport, designing, and among others. Adding more skills will show that you’re a well-rounded person.

 

  1. Be happy!

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Life is too short to live in misery. Don’t waste your time dwelling on the negatives instead see the positives.

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How Leaders Can Teach a Culture of Personal Growth

Leaders make an impact in their companies but it’s not always understood how that impact manifests in the everyday grind of business. As a consultant, I have been working with leaders from several companies over the past years both small and large ones. I have seen firsthand how the CEO’s behavior and mindset create the model for a particular kind of behavior in surrounding teams. And what I’ve discovered between those years is that the most real and most lasting impact of leaders is cultural.

Leadership certainly affects the culture in an organization, even when that influence is subconscious. That impact can quickly become negative unless a leader reflects on their development. If the personal culture of a CEO is at odds with the culture of the organization, the whole motion of a company can stall. A Harvard Business School research that looks into CEOs in six countries found that misalignment of a CEO can have detrimental effects on the health and performance of the organization.

Preventing such things doesn’t just involve the effectiveness of a leader. It’s as much about your ability to show personal growth. The result of a conscientious personal journey is an excellent leadership

The Issue of Personal Growth as a Leader

When starting in a career or with a company, it’s easy to feel fulfilled. The excitement of new possibilities and being submerged into a working environment with insightful peers and colleagues make you feel invigorating. You can get the feeling that personal growth is continuously happening.

As you get promoted once, twice, maybe three times on the professional ladder, you’ll usually experience a lonelier playing field. You have to find someone outside your organization for peers who understand your everyday challenges, and most of them are actually competitors. Furthermore, Western culture perpetuated the myth of the “hero” executive to the point that you’re expected to suffer silently to be an effective CEO. As a result, you can feel very uncomfortable sharing personal growth with others. Maybe you’re afraid to be seen as weak, failure or less than infallible. While it’s understandable, it’s also unsustainable.

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Ignoring or hiding personal growth can destruct you and the company at large as you’ll miss an opportunity to connect with your employees. In fact, many Americans working at midsize to enterprise-size businesses don’t know the names of their CEOs.

How to Embrace a Companywide Personal Growth Mindset?

  • Make talking about personal growth safe. We, as leaders, have areas we’re actively working on. It’s happening, and we all know. However, we usually don’t talk about it and it’s not apparent why. Start opening up about your journey to help your employees think more openly and honestly about theirs. By doing it, you’ll provide employees a license to talk about their journeys. It works because as a company leader, you have a degree of authority and credibility. If you strive to drive growth, providing a behavioral pattern for others to emulate is a must.

 

  • Master the art of personal storytelling. If you are telling a story about your personal growth, do it in a way that promotes empathy and understanding. You can encourage deeper interactions if you use a personal narrative. You need to make it real, and you’re as real as it gets. However, it doesn’t mean your story has to be like a heroic tale. Grapple with both negativity and positivity. Talk about the challenge and the journey to overcome. The most critical factor is vulnerability to get a balance of sympathy and hopes that inspire employees in their struggles.

 

  • Find a great coach. As a leader, you are considered as a coach in the company, so it is challenging to find models for personal growth. This is where external mentors come in to provide guidance. Many successful CEOs already depend on great coaches. A trusted and unbiased third party can offer a crucial perspective during your personal growth journey.

Leaders’ actions drive organizational culture. However, you should learn to take notice of your personal growth story to shape your influence as a leader into a force for good. A cogent CEO isn’t fearlessness or infallibility but the opposite. An effective leader is not infallibility or fearlessness; in fact, it just the opposite. Be vulnerable and you’ll be amazed to know those around you open their hearts and minds to your vision.